loving

ah.. finally we come to loving. i belong to a yahoo group for D/s noobs. and a question was posted last week about if love is a must in any BDSM relationship.. and my first thought was.. of course it is! its weird to see how different people reacted to that question. a couple of weeks ago, Miss Fran posted about devotion. for me love and devotion go hand and hand, how can you be completely devoted to someone, and not love them, or at least feel for them a great deal? and if you love someone, how can you not be completely devoted? there are lots of ways to show love. but for me the best way to show love is to do what She asks of me, not grudgingly, but because i love Her and i know that doing those things makes Her happy

comforting

comfort has many forms. i have certian tasks to do when i am at Miss Frans house.. more will come when i start spending more time there. She is teaching me how to do Her laundry.. i make Her bed every morning.. those things are chores for me.. requirements.. but i would do them even if they wernt. just like sending Her a good morning message before i go to work.. that is not a requirement.. but i know She likes it, She enjoys them.. they are a sort of comfort to Her.. and as a sub, Her comfort always comes before mine. when i sleep with Her (which isnt often.. im hoping to maybe sneak a night in this weekend hehe) She plays with my hair, or just runs Her hands over me.. touching is a big thing for me.. so thats one way She is a comfort to me. i feel that comfort goes both ways.. and i think that W/we both do a good job of comforting E/eachother

obedient

obedience is probablly one of the most important parts of O/our relationship. either i obey. or i can go home.. so to say. i can do whats asked or not bother doing anything at all. those are the terms of O/our relationship. when you love someone you want to do what makes them happy.. everyone slips. even the most experianced of subs. im lucky to be with Miss Fran, lucky that W/we are going through the trial and error togeather. She is fair.. i see that.. even though at the time of infraction, i may not.

respectful

respect for me in this relationship is a lot of things.. i have to respect Her rules.. Her moods.. learning to read them has been hard, but i think im getting better. i have to respect Her as my Domme.. as my Girlfriend, my Friend.. my everything. to me my recently aquired tattoo represents a lot of things.. but first and formost.. a sort of permanance. i was scared when She told me i was getting the tattoo.. not because of the pain, however i was wary about that as well, but mostly it was because i knew i would always carry Her mark.. and for a split second i doubted myself.. wondered if i was ready. and if i wasnt i knew that that would be ok too.. i respect Her for Her kindness and patience with me.. i know its taken a lot.. especially patience. i have no more doubts about this Relationship, or tattoo.. or anything.

cheeky

hmm.. i think cheeky is something that a sub should use sparingly... and only in the private audience with her Domme.. never in public. i think its just a fun way to keep things light.. my personal favorites are licking.. kissing.. funny faces.. but never do them during a scene.. that would be bad. i love to have fun with Miss Fran just as much as i like to play and scene.

thankful

thankful is a good trait for anyone to have. im thankful for so many things.. i post about them every week. i feel bad when it takes me a while to come up with the 10 that is required of me. a sub should always be thankful. a few things i am thankful for concerning Miss Fran.. we are the same height.. so when i hug her my face fits in Her neck.. when we lay in bed naked and i lay my head on Her chest Her skin is so soft and smooth there.. i dont know how to explain thankfulness.. i know that my parents brought me up to always say my p's and que's. but i am so thankful for Miss Fran, for my new collar, for my new tattoo.. which is my icon picture..

unobtrusive

in my opinion i think a sub should never seek attention. she should be quiet, sort of in the background. she should stay put, untill her Mistress requests something from her.. she should be seen and not heard in a sense, to speak when spoken to. she should not be assertive, should never be undesireably noticeable. she should always represent her Mistress in the best possible way, dress and appearance, and her disposition.

giving

ive always been a giver, as i said in a previous post. i love birthdays, christmas, silly holidays.. i love buying presents. but in a D/s relationship, giving is about so much more. its about giving your body, soul, and trust. and in O/our case, my heart as well. ive always given those things maybe a little too freely in the past.. at least my heart. im not slut.. at least not the text book term slut. i can count the amount of people with on less than 2 hands. but thats neither here nor there. when i give myself, i can easily see how it pleases Her.. just today She told me She bought me a present because ive been such a good girl this week. giving goes both ways. always. you give everything and do everything to make sure the One you love is happy :)

trusting

trust is important in any relationship. but i think its even more so in one like O/ours. i need to trust Her to not push me too far. i have to trust Her with my body. She has to trust that ill always be honest with my feelings and emotions. that i will always be an open book. that She will always have a clear head, and a steady hand. that She will always be fair to me. not ask too much. not set me up for failure. that She will always be there for me.

unassuming

Miss Fran asked me to do seperate post on each of the 10 things that i listed for good qualities in a sub. And the first is unassuming. a sub should never assume anything. assume - means make an ASS out of U and ME. a sub should never assume she gets to sit on the couch during the movie. a sub should never assume that she gets to sit at the table at dinner. she should always assume that her tasks should always be done, unless otherwise instructed. a sub should always assume that her obligation is first and formost to her Mistress. a sub should never assume that she has a right to herself. her body is not her own.

10 things i love about subs

Miss Fran asked me to do a post on 10 qualities that i think a good sub should possess.

1. unassuming

2. trusting

3. giving

4. unobtrusive

5. thankful

6. cheeky

7. respectful

8. obedient

9. comforting

10. loving